I just read this line on another blog by Second Time Dad, “…with the goal of eventually taking responsibility, as an adult, for his/her own happiness and success” (read the whole thing here: A Nugget of Wisdom in the Stip Order). I think this is the perfect definition of maturity. When you can truly say that you are responsible for your own happiness and success, you will be a mature, happy human being. It’s what every parent wants for their kids.
Sounds simple, doesn’t it? It’s not. Many full grown adults can’t claim they have this yet.
Human beings are social creatures. We depend on each other for survival and comfort – that’s natural. Other people will make you happy, sad, angry – and, that’s natural too. But, in the end, your happiness with your life is your own responsibility. Don’t try to pin all your woes on somebody else – you have choices.
If someone is making you miserable, remove yourself. If nothing is going your way, count the blessings you already have. If you can’t shake that cloud over your head, find help.
In the words of Mother Teresa:
“People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you.
Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten.
Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.
Give your best anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.”
No matter what your life brings, kids, be responsible for your own happiness anyway.